Evolutionology: Sex & Relationships Test

Are you biased towards the Masculine or the Feminine side?

Directions: For each of the 10 questions below, you must choose one “Now” answer on the left hand side (describing how you think now), and one “Aspire” answer on the right hand side (describing how you aspire to think).

Click one radio button on each side. (You are allowed to choose the same answer for both sides.)

A few of the questions below have two versions, for example one for Men and one for Women. You can only answer one version of each question.

1a. (For SINGLE/unmarried people ONLY:) When approaching to ask someone out for the first time, I...
Now Aspire to
am confidant, cocky, and will even be pushy in order to succeed.
will usually appear confidant (even if I am not feeling it) and will quite often succeed.
will appear comfortable, though may confess feeling nervous. I will admit my interest without being pushy.
will appear somewhat nervous, and I may occasionally succeed.
will feel very nervous, will not be acting myself at all, and will usually not succeed as a result.
1b. (For MARRIED people or long-time couples ONLY:) When wanting to initiate sex with my spouse, I...
Now Aspire to
engage without invitation, with determination, and will even be pushy if necessary to be successful.
will try to seduce or convince them if they are less than willing… but will not force the issue.
may test the waters or make an approach, but will desist if the advances seem unwelcome.
will make insinuations, hoping to be encouraged, and will be disappointed if rebuffed.
will ask permission, will always put their mood and feelings first, and may even sulk if rebuffed.
2a. (For WOMEN only:) Which husband would you choose if you could or had to choose one of these?
I am now I aspire to be
A strong and confidant leadership-type personality who is a very good provider.
Reliable enough to take care of the basic necessities, and a comfortable earner.
As reliable or capable as you are and an equal contributor to household income.
Easily convinced by you, and accomplishes as much (or less) professionally and financially than you do.
2b. (For MEN only:) Which wife would you choose if you could or had to choose one of these?
I am now I aspire to be
Below average looks but great personality/company.
Average looks but good personality/company.
Above average looks, acceptable personality/company.
Great looks but not the greatest personality/company.
3. If my long-time partner snaps at me after a hard day, I...
Now... Aspire...
feel hurt or guilty, later apologize, and then go out of my way to do something nice for them.
feel disappointed, but give them some space and later do something nice for them.
do not overreact, give them space, but address it later so better outlets can be found in future.
call them out for taking outside frustrations out at home, but without feeling hurt or angry.
immediately nip it in the bud and put them back in their place in no uncertain terms.
4. If my long-time partner embarrasses me at a party, when we get home I...
Now... Aspire...
tell them I am unhappy and demand an explanation and an apology.
tell them that I was upset, and I hope they would then choose to acknowledge and apologize.
withdraw so they know I am upset, and when they ask, I say how I felt and ask for an apology.
withdraw or sulk so they know I am upset, and I will only tell them how hurt I felt after they apologize.
5. When listening to a friend or spouse’s problem or complaint...
Now... Aspire...
I immediately suggest how to fix the situation and I get annoyed if my suggestions are resisted.
I listen and then offer suggestions on how to fix or remedy the situation.
I listen and commiserate, and I express that I stand ready to say or do whatever might be most supportive.
I listen patiently and sympathize.
I listen emotionally, commiserate, sympathize, and offer reassurance and encouragement.
6. When entering an elevator with one other attractive passenger already on board, I routinely...
Now... Aspire...
will avoid interaction and eye contact as much as possible without being insulting.
may nod politely but will then direct my body language away from them in order to show or invite no interest.
will be polite and cordial, and will make as much conversation as they seem comfortable with.
greet them and make friendly chatter. I may even flirt.
7a. (For WOMEN only:) In our long-time marriage (or relationship)...
Now... Aspire...
he makes far more sacrifices for her than she makes for him.
she will occasionally make sacrifices for him, though he will tend to do more of the compromising.
we both feel equally empowered to express our needs and equally dedicated to our partner's happiness.
he will occasionally make sacrifices for her, though she will tend to do more of the compromising.
she makes far more sacrifices for him than he makes for her.
7b. (For MEN only:) In our long-time marriage (or relationship)...
Now... Aspire...
he makes far more sacrifices for her than she makes for him.
she will occasionally make sacrifices for him, though he will tend to do more of the compromising.
we both feel equally empowered to express our needs and equally dedicated to our partner's happiness.
he will occasionally make sacrifices for her, though she will tend to do more of the compromising.
she makes far more sacrifices for him than he makes for her.
8a. (For WOMEN only:) On the first few dates, I...
Now... Aspire...
believe the man should always pay.
believe the man should usually pay, but she can occasionally contribute if she really wants to.
believe we should split the check unless there is an occasion or a reason for one party to pay.
believe we should always split the check, but if the man sometimes pays, then so should the woman.
8b. (For MEN only:) On the first few dates, I...
Now... Aspire...
believe the man should always pay.
believe the man should usually pay, but she can occasionally contribute if she really wants to.
believe we should split the check unless there is an occasion or a reason for one party to pay.
believe we should always split the check, but if the man sometimes pays, then so should the woman.
9. I prefer...
Now... Aspire...
when my partner takes charge complete and makes all of our plans.
when my partner makes the plans, but it would be nice if they check with me before finalizing.
that we discuss and makes plan together, or that we each take the lead in areas of our interest.
when I take charge and make the plans, but I don’t mind consulting with them before finalizing.
when I take charge complete and make all of our plans without interference.
10. Regarding Feminism, I believe...
Now... Aspire...
it is one of the most important rights movements of the past century, and there is still much more to be done.
it should be praised for its essential contributions to women’s rights, though more can still be done.
it is an admirable reaction to persecution and has furthered women’s rights.
it is a good idea to make people aware of inequality, but some Feminist ideas may go a bit too far.
it is an extreme over-reaction by women who go too far.